My Third Hypnobirth- Baby Lochlan, 7th March 2016
This was my first pregnancy since training as a Hypnobirthing teacher and teaching Hypnobirthing ensured I was constantly reminded of the techniques for my own third birth. In addition I am so grateful for the birth stories I received from my Hypnobirthing families as they always inspired me and made me excited for my own birth. My husband and I practiced the techniques regularly in the lead up to the birth and my walls were covered with positive affirmations. We again planned a home birth with a birth pool waiting in the garage.
My second baby, Imogen arrived at 39 weeks and 4 days of pregnancy so we almost started ‘waiting’ for baby as soon as I hit 39 weeks. Anyone who has taken one of my courses knows that I advocate keeping busy around your due date to avoid the feeling of ‘waiting’, however I really do appreciate how hard this can be. With two young children and a sore pelvis keeping busy was hard.
My due date came and went and each evening it did cross my mind whether tonight would be the night. At 5 days past my due date it was my birthday so Adam, my husband and I made lovely plans to take my mind off ‘waiting’. That day I had a few surges whilst eating Thai food and shopping in Leeds so it did cross my mind that I might end up sharing my birthday. However they stopped by the time the evening came.
The next evening, the evening of Mother’s day Adam and I headed to bed around 11pm and I just couldn’t get comfortable. I was having some pressure sensations that I thought might have been just Braxton Hicks. After laying in bed unable to sleep, watching a Gavin and Stacy box set I realised this might actually be the real thing- labour had started.
I managed to get an hour or so of sleep, but at around 3am I woke up to my twenty month old daughter Imogen crying, She had been sick all over her bed and pajamas. Adam and I bathed, changed her bed and comforted her. The sensations I’d being having stopped during this time, however I became worried that I’d be welcoming our baby into a house with tummy bugs lurking. Adam volunteered to sleep on Imogen’s floor to keep an eye on her and I returned to bed worrying about her.
My surges picked back up and I lost my mucus plug. I couldn’t help but worry that I wasn’t in the right positive mindset for labour as I was so concerned about Imogen. I called my lovely independent midwife Sarah Flower who was so reassuring. She said to make a plan for someone to be with Imogen and hopefully I will then be able to relax. So we called my mother in law to come and sleep on Imogen’s floor.
Adam and I then went downstairs, I relaxed on the sofa as he made the living room all cosy- candles, affirmations, scents, etc. We then listened to our Hypnobirthing tracks together to get some rest. Adam slept and I just relaxed whilst having surges every 6 or 7 minutes. I stopped worrying about Imogen, knowing she was safe and focused on the excitement that baby was coming.
By about 6 am I suggested that Adam set up the birthing pool just incase. I sat on my birth ball and did my up breathing through surges, which were now getting stronger and more regular. I listened to relaxing music that I’d used at both my son and daughter’s births.
At 7am both my children woke up and my mother in law took them to her house. I continued to use my birth ball and breathing techniques. By 8am I suggested Adam rang our midwife Sarah as things were becoming stronger. Sarah arrived at around 8.30am and in hindsight I was probably in transition as the power of my surges were so strong and they were very frequent. I was debating getting in the pool but I was worried it was too soon. Adam was such an amazing support. I stood and held onto him when the surges were really strong. 15 minutes later my waters broke giving massive relief. Sarah suggested I got in the pool if I wanted a water birth so I got in. The feeling of the warm water was amazing, I couldn’t believe Sarah was suggesting baby was close!
I had a short rest and be thankful stage blissfully in the pool and then I noticed my surges were changing- baby was coming! I had a 9 minute downward stage that was intense. I breathed through the powerful downward surges and I reached down and caught our baby. We revealed his gender ourselves and was surprised that he was a boy. I’d had such a strong feeling he’d be a girl all my pregnancy. It was a wonderful surprise!
I stayed in the pool for around 20 minutes having skin to skin with our baby but chose to get out onto the sofa as sitting in the pool began to get uncomfortable. We snuggled up on the sofa, waiting a while for the placenta. I then had a lovely shower and got in my bed for toast, tea, chocolate and snuggles.
Just after midday Harris and Imogen came home to excitedly meet their little brother.
Baby Lochlan weighed 8lb 12oz, born one week after his estimated due date.
Hypnobirthing again was wonderful for us. It enabled me to refocus after the chaos of dealing Imogen being ill. It allowed me to trust my body and my instincts. We are grateful that we were able to give our baby a calm entrance into the world, just like his siblings did. In addition having an independent midwife was the best decision we’ve made in this pregnancy. Having someone that we knew and trusted arrive at our birth was priceless and Sarah has been absolutely amazing at every stage and continues to be now. We will always be grateful to her for that.