Misconceptions about Hypnobirthing that drive me nuts!
Hypnobirthing is pretty well known. And known for all the right reasons!
The stories say it all- the glow of positivity however things went.
The headlines from big celebrities raving about this approach to birth.
More and more parents-to-be are booking courses!
But despite all this awareness there’s still so many misconceptions about Hypnobirthing.
Assumptions that births using Hypnobirthing have to look a certain way.
That every Hypnobirthing mum has to make certain choices.
Misconceptions that it’s all about lack of pain.
I hear these time and time again.From the media.
From the reactions my clients get when they tell people they are Hypnobirthing. Sometimes even from their midwives and doctors.
From my friends and family.
So I’ve decided to put a few of these myths to rest. So here are my top 4 misconceptions put right…
Misconception 1- it’s just for straightforward births
This one really frustrates me because I know a lot of women don’t ever look into Hypnobirthing based on this assumption. They think all this staying Hypnobirthing stuff is all well and good if everything goes to ‘plan’.
Perhaps images of birth pools, candles and plinky plonky music come to mind. A zenned out mum-to-be sipping on her lemon water.
And yes some women’s births who are Hypnobirthing look like this. Others don’t.
Some might be Caesarian births, induced labours, births in hospitals, births at home. How it happens is less important.
It’s about how you feel- knowing what you can control and being able to let go of what you can’t, having tools to feel more relaxed and comfortable, feeling empowered to make decisions that you are happy with, feeling supported by a birth partner that knows what you need.
Ultimately having a mindset that allows you to enjoy your pregnancy fear-free and then being able to look back at your baby’s birth as a positive experience.
Take a look at some of the birth stories from my clients and see that women use the wonderful Hypnobirthing techniques in all types of births.
Hypnobirthing Misconception 2- My Partner won’t be interested in that
I could talk about this all day long. And I could debate whether or not what your partner thinks is really that relevant if it’s going to impact your birth so powerfully. But maybe that’s for another day .
So I hear this a lot, yet I’m always really confident that when they do come to a course they certainly WILL be interested.
I’d probably say around 90% of partner’s come along to a Hypnobirthing course with some reservation. Come on, the name ‘hypnobirthing’ doesn’t really do us any favours! He’s assuming it’s a bit mind control, a bit Woo, a bit alternative! Who’s this weird women and what’s she going to do to us?!
But actually the course is about him too. He doesn’t really want to be a spare part. He’d love to know how to support you and make this a team experience.
And I totally trust that he will be reassured that every bit of Hypnobirthing is logical. There’s loads of Science behind it and lots of links with big mindset practices like sports psychology. Plus I’m not that much of a weirdo.
I love to see those light bulb moments and that sense of reassurance that this course is nothing like the strange image they had of it in their head. And I love that lots of recommendations come from the dads that have done the course as well as the mums!
Hypnobirthing Misconception 3- Using Hypnosis techniques will mean you are not in control
Most people’s associations with hypnosis are stage hypnosis, down the pub when some stage hypnotist gets someone to bark like a dog in what seems like a deep trance. And because we think of examples like this we think- mind control! No thanks!
Well I can assure you that Hypnobirthing is nothing like this and I’d argue that actually by doing Hypnobirthing you are likely to feel more in control.
We are all used to being in a state of hypnosis. An example is when we are laid in bed just about to drop off asleep. We are deeply relaxed and able to switch off from distractions. Of course we’d be able to snap out of it whenever we needed or wanted to. We are totally in control.
Being able to access this state of relaxation in labour is AMAZING! When you are deeply relaxed your body can just do its thing, just as it was designed! We can also choose to disengage with distractions that might be around us.
Back to the myth then, using hypnosis techniques mean you are not in control. This is a total myth as 1. It’s you that controls when and how you go into this state (all hypnosis is self hypnosis)
You are so much more likely to feel in control when you feel calm and relaxed rather than tense and flustered. FACT.
Add to all this that you will feel totally informed about the birth process, know that you have lots of options and that you’ll gain more confidence in owning your birth. The result is you’ll feel like you have more control than you thought you’d have.
Hypnobirthing Misconception 4- Women using Hypnobirthing should birth quietly
Perhaps people imagine that a woman using Hypnobirthing might birth silently looking completely serene and relaxed.
I can’t stress enough that a birth using Hypnobirthing might not look like that at all.
This is a big one for me because I hate anything that suggests women should or shouldn’t do certain things in their birth. Women know their body and they can do whatever the hell feels good.
It is true that Hypnobirthing gives women powerful tools to help them feel calmer and more relaxed but that does not mean they need to stay quiet. If they want to roar like a lion or Hum like a bird then of course they can.
Some women are quiet birthers and some women unleash their power through their voice. This is not a negative thing- this is simply them following their bodies. Imagine telling a tennis player to stay quiet when hitting the ball. We never assume that a tennis player is ‘not coping’ when making noise, we know perhaps this aids their performance.
On my Hypnobirthing courses you will find that there are no ‘shoulds’. Hypnobirthing is a full birth preparation course with lots of powerful tools- it’s not a formula for birthing your baby that you either achieve or don’t achieve.
Births using Hypnobirthing may all look different and indeed sound different. But ultimately the couple have approached birth with more confidence, they feel informed and are equipped to have a positive birth experience with powerful tools at the ready.
To ditch the nerves and arm yourself with powerful tools for your birth book your Hypnobirthing course today. Courses fill up quickly so don’t hang around.